All You Need is a Good Question
“It is not the answer that enlightens, but the question.”
A good question is an explorer, a mirror, or a seed that brings growth. It can transform a mundane conversation. A good question can illuminate our view: in its light we see corners unexplored in another's story.
It's easy to get into a conversation rut as a family. I find myself asking my husband and littles the same questions over and over again at the dinner table or after school. They give me the same tired responses. Can you relate?
Last month, one of our few outings as a new family of five was to Chik-fil-a. You can read more about our last month and the addition of our newest little warrior via adoption here. Our crazy show held up the line, spilled food everywhere and had a glorious time over nuggets, waffle fries and the joy (or miracle) of zero meltdowns. The kids meal toy was a modest little plastic packet of questions. Our kids weren't too impressed with them at first. One look and then they were back to their fries.
A week or so later, however, my oldest found one of the packets of questions in his cupholder, and on the way to Tae Kwon Do practice we took turns asking each other a few of the questions. We not only laughed together at one another's responses; we learned new things about each other. We needed the help of a few fresh questions.
This morning, I decided to take the little question cards out of the plastic boxes they came in and give them a little makeover. I gave them some new edges and dropped them into a wide-mouthed glass jar. It was just enough of a simple makeover to make the little cards unique enough to bring satisfaction to both my Enneagram 4 heart and Pinterest-challenged life.
When we ask one another questions as a family, we model pursuing others and have the chance to model listening and learning. I want my little warriors to have this skill and to become forever learners who find others' stories fascinating and worth pursuing, while also able to share their own.
Over the next few meals together, I am going to pull our question jar out and see where it leads us.